I have a friend a first time mom, who expected her son to have tantrums. I told her that all 1 year old will occasionally kick, scream and throw toys around. But she felt inher that ther is something wrong with his son.
She ask me if its normal for a child to destroy his diaper ad make holes in them when he is angry? I answered her sometimes children do those stuff. Another is , she ask if it is normal for a boy if he kicks the wall or throws things at people when he gets mad? Well that one I cant assure, if its normal .
Her son seemed so stress and unhappy , he hurts himself to relieve his emotions . My friend knew she had to do something . So I help her to go to his pediatrician, but they also recommended us on a toddler therapist. So we look for one and we end up to a occupational therapist, he told my friend that it is too early to diagnose ADHD or Attention Defici Hyperactivity Disorder, even if her son is super hyper active.
The therapist advised her to have a session. My friend was told not to intervene during the session, for her it was hard. And when it start her son start to scream and cry out loud she wanted to rush and calm him down because she heard him . and she felt her son was traumatized. On another test his son was found out was highly intelligent for his age. He cannot only express his emotions and idea to the people around him so he easily get angry.
The therapist said it could manage the tantrums by helping her to express what he want, using codes because his son in not yet talking. This one can help her to communicate with him. So they attend the therapy every second week and the progress is really great. His son learned to take instruction without having a tantrums . My friend was also advise to take his son to a speech therapist . These are some advise of the therapist to my friend.
* Observe you home environment --.Don't let you child watch inappropriate shows. Like violent cartoons that is a major no no to your child.
* Acknowlege feeling but stick to the rules- if you cannot stand the tantrums, no hitting just keep sentences short and simple.
* To build his vocabulary talk to him with clear and complete sentence. No baby talk. Reading and singing is one of the big help.
* Be patient when we communicate with the child. Look at him when talking and give him his turn to talk.
* Reinforce your words with gesture. Children can understand body language and codes faster than sentence.
* And lastly trust your instincts bring you child to a proper therapist or developmental pediatrician they are the one can assess you child if you feel something's wrong. Always guide your toddler on every step they take, they only depend on what we teach them and they will the best person they maybe because of us.
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