To break an engagement is the most courageous think a couple can do. Certainly it must be painful but it is less depressing to think about how it would be during the wedding and the rest of the married life after. Breaking an engagement is the right way to do especially when you know that marriage for both of you will bring you trouble instead of being happy. If engagement ends up in a failure it only means that deciding to marry is not an answer to resolve issues and it would also mean that the couple decided not to force themselves to marry.
We can mention few ways to lessen the pain of broken engagement and to lessen the emotional intensity that follows. Since there are nice ways to end all engagement up, there are also mean ways to end it up as well but suffice it to say that I will only tackle the good ways on how to minimize the effect of a relatively difficult situation.
Both parties decide to end it: It takes two to tango. In the same manner that ending an engagement should be. Both of you should carefully decide on what to do and make it final because if you are still doubting about your engagement and if you are going to end it then it defeats the purpose of the whole matter. If you decide, make it firm and final so that you won't go on and off the track as if it is some kind of adventure for you.
Stay calm: There is nothing better than to really sit and talk. Discuss every possibilities and aspects of the break-up if it is really inevitable and be reasonable with everything. Take consideration not only of your feelings but also to your partner's situation and emotion. Take into account the possible embarrassment you both will face afterwards. As much as possible don't let any party feel that he or she is being jilted because of unattractiveness and undesirability. It is a cruel thing to do to leave the person with that kind of feeling. If one you don't like to break the engagement, this is where a complicated situation will arise. But to discuss clearly between you two will solve the situation fast than to leave each other on.
Let your family and friends know: As soon as the decision is final, let your family and friends know the exact details and exactly what is going on especially in this situation where you would like to end things. They should be able to understand if both of you firmly decides on such a big decision.
Send back or return all the gifts: It is just but right that all gifts that you have received supposedly for the wedding be returned and that even if there was a drastic change in plans, you are always thankful of their thoughtfulness.
Marriage is not a game that when you lose you just have to admit defeat and congratulate the winner. Before even getting married it is important that you know you are doing the right thing. If you both feel marriage is not an answer to your need then it is just but right to let go of each other during the engagement period. A broken engagement is easier to manage than a broken marriage after all.
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